#57 (12/14/20) "Can We Still Save the Class of 2021?" Laurie & Matt revisit an urgent topic, one they first rang the alarm on in the Spring with a widely read blog post. With half of the year almost complete, they're asking "Can We Still Save the Class of 2021?"
Matt rereads the blog post, and it sounds like it could have been written yesterday. If we knew so much and saw so much last Spring, why haven't we made more progress? It seems like everyone around Laurie & Matt are less optimistic about a Spring return to campus, and a general consensus seems to have developed around an entire year of distance learning. Is it just something that has worked itself into the conversation and everyone has adopted it, or have we lost the ability to work together to save our teens? It's a frustrating, tough conversation between two parents and teachers of teens that are seeing an important year of school slip away.
#58 (12/21/20) "How Do We Make Peace With 2020?" Laurie & Matt look back on the year that is coming to an end and ask, "How Do We Make Peace With 2020?" In a year where it feels like we've been shoved to the ground and kicked repeatedly in the gut, how do we find the strength to forgive and move on?
For all of the pain we've endured, there has been an incredible amount of growth. Laurie & Matt focus their attention there, along with some strategies that can help all of us get straight with a year that will never be forgotten, like finding inspiration in the stories of others that have endured historic hardships, and developing our ability to accept whatever comes our way. "The world is perfect and as it should be," is a concept that has helped Matt in this regard.
#59 (12/28/20) Laurie & Matt's Goals for 2021 Laurie & Matt, in their final episode of 2020, take a moment to establish some goals for the coming year. With a mix of personal and professional goals, and some questioning of whether there's any real separation between the two, they look forward to a year of growth and wellness, and putting the current one to rest. Finally.
#60 (1/4/21) Attention, Neuroscience, and Who We Are Laurie & Matt pivot to a health and wellness focus for 2021, adhering to the familiar advice of securing their own oxygen masks before helping the child in the seat next to them in the great airplane of life. They start by focusing on ATTENTION, and how our brains are shaped by what we choose to feed it. The algorithms have their own agenda for what we should pay attention to, but are their suggestions really crafting the person we want to be and the life we want to live? Thoughtfully curating the items we train our attention on, and in turn shape our brains and ourselves, is as good a place to start a new year as any Laurie & Matt can imagine.
#61 (1/11/21) Virtues, Well-Being, and Pursuit of the Good Life Laurie & Matt begin a 10 week journey they're calling the Sourcebook Series, a collection of journal entries that they started to collect, evaluate, generate, and refine over the last six months that represent the most important ideas and principles of who they are, that represent what their life stands for. It's been some of the most important work they've done for themselves, which in turn is good for the teens they serve.
On this episode they talk about the first list in their Sourcebook: Virtues. Virtues represent the guiding principles and values that guide our actions, help us make better decisions, and define what we consider to be a truly Good Life. What are your virtues? This week's homework is to do a Google search for a list of virtues, and think about which ones matter the most to you, that you want to define the kind of person you are. Select 4 or more to be your primary virtues, then as many more as you like to be supportive, sub-virtues. Write them down, define them in your own terms, and spend some time each morning meditating on them before you begin your day.
#62 (1/18/21) Phrases, Quotes, and Words of Wisdom Laurie & Matt share the 2nd list they've started curating in their Sourcebook, a journal of ideas, concepts, and information that defines who they are and what their life stands for. We each have a Sourcebook, and you either write and live your own, or allow it to be written for you.
The 2nd entry in the Sourcebook is a compilation of the wise quotes, phrases, and sayings that provide us with guidance and motivation, a few words at a time. They seep into our brain through their clever word choice and efficient structure, and they bubble to surface when we need their wisdom. Start gathering those bits of wisdom that speak to you and your needs, that have been passed down from family members, come from your faith, you've read in a book, or you maybe saw on Instagram.
#63 (1/25/21) Heroes, Loved Ones, and the Guidance of Role Models Laurie & Matt share the 3rd list they've started curating in their Sourcebook, a journal of ideas, concepts, and information that defines who they are and what their life stands for. We each have a Sourcebook, and you either write and live your own, or allow it to be written for you.
This week they explore the role models that have been inspiration for actions, decisions, and development of character, and how important it is to keep these individuals in our hearts and minds as a personalized support group. Parents and teachers are prone to focus, often with great consternation, on the role models our teens gravitate towards, forgetting that our own models of character are their to help us in the toughest of times. Role models are human, and like us they are not perfect, but they have developed the ability to handle aspects of life that we can learn from and aspire to.
#64 (2/1/21) Qualities, Traits, and the Destiny of Character Laurie & Matt share the 4th list they've started curating in their Sourcebook, a journal of ideas, concepts, and information that defines who they are and what their life stands for. We each have a Sourcebook, and you either write and live your own, or allow it to be written for you.
This week the focus turns towards character, and the collection of traits and qualities that we assemble, purposefully or not, that determine how we move through the world. By taking the time to compile a list of those traits we admire in others, that we see as advantageous in the pursuit of our best life, we have a guide map for growth, of how to improve ourselves and our future. It serves as equal parts validation and inspiration, and reminds us of the power of character to shape our lives.